From the desk of Lauren Palmer
I have not suffered the way many have. I have never been ostracized based on my color. I was born white to parents who taught me to love Christ from the moment I took my first breath. I grew up safe and healthy in a 2-parent household, where I always had plenty to eat, could afford to participate in extra-curricular activities, and for a teenager, felt confidence in who I was. I completed High School and received my Bachelor’s Degree from a private university that was paid for by my parents. Although I didn’t love every job I had post college, finding employment was never difficult.
I met my future husband when we were 14. I never had to sit and watch all my friends get married while I sadly waited for the “right one” to come along. I got it right the first time, our commitment to eachother is strong with the Lord as our foundation. Upon returning from my Honeymoon, I moved into a large house, and at the ripe old age of 24, I joined a country club with my husband where he played golf and we hung out with friends on the patio every Friday night.
I conceived both of my children with complete ease. Both pregnancies and deliveries were easy. Both children are healthy. I even mastered nursing, the dreaded “will you or won’t you”, shame-evoking, challenging decision all new mother’s face. It was never an issue for us.
In my 37 years of life, regardless of who or what party sat in the Oval Office, my life has remained consistent. When the stock market crashed in 2008, my life remained consistent. I even had the means to start my company a few years later and move into my forever home.
I have NEVER feared for the safety of my children or worried what imaginary crimes their skin color would initiate.
As I look at pictures of the faces of George and Ahmaud and Trayvon and countless others, as I see the tears of protestors and the anger of rioters, and I hear the voices of my precious black friends crack over the phone, I know their lives likely have looked nothing like mine, or had the privilege that mine has held, and I am reminded of the words of my Lord:
“From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” Luke 12:48
I have been given much.
I have been entrusted with much.
Some of my blessings are due to the privilege my color affords, and some of them were just gifted by the grace of God. But we ALL have the blessing of oxygen in our lungs right this moment which empowers us to move forward.
Regardless your skin color, if you are reading this today, I pray you look at how much you have been given, count yourself as blessed, and prayerfully discern where you are called to help fellow humans. To my white sisters who feel the desire to help but are hesitant to “get involved” or feel lost in what to do, please pray bravely. We all have an important role to play every single day on this earth, and you are needed in your role! Supporting the black community doesn’t mean you condone rioting or looting or arson. It means you love your fellow man. To my black sisters, I’m sorry I’m late. But I’m here now and I see you and I support you and I love you.
As I explained to the two young white boys I am raising, “You happen to be privileged because of your color, so use that advantage to lead and love as Christ does.”
Stay safe and in His love sweet friends.
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