When you want to meet someone new at work or somewhere you’ve been before, you have to let the world know you’re open to dating. The easiest way to do this is through body language, as being welcoming the entire world in, and not telling it specifically how you’re feeling is more welcoming to everyone, and less defensive of the person you’re with. If you’re trying to meet someone new in a class or at a party, tell the people around you at first. They’ll be glad to see you out there, and they’ll likely think nothing of your initial greeting.
When you first meet someone online, be sure to research them first. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about their personality, interests and hobbies. You never know who you’ll run into first on the Internet. You can also look for other profiles that match up with what you’re looking for. These could be your best chances for a first date if you don’t hit it off right away with someone online.
When you finally do meet someone else at work or in a party, be sure to keep things casual. Don’t take things too serious or think that your first meeting someone else will lead to anything more serious in the future. It’s always easier to make new friends at work or in a party, than it is when you’re meeting someone else in a relationship.
Don’t be afraid to say “I’d like to meet someone new” to anyone you meet online. There’s nothing to be ashamed of, and saying that you’d like to meet someone new is more comfortable for everyone. Many people are turned off by pick-up lines or statements of interest from someone they’ve just met online. Be direct and let them know what you want.
Make sure to pick-up lines are appropriate for where you plan to go and for how much experience you have meeting someone offline. If you have only known your dates online for a few weeks, using a lot of cheesy pick-up lines can be hurtful. On the other hand, if you have known your dates for years and have gotten to know them well enough that you know you can tell when they’re bored or simply don’t feel comfortable, there’s no reason not to tell them what you want. Saying “I’d like to meet someone” is a lot different than “I’d like to sleep with him.”
The final thing to remember when meeting someone for the first time is that you should be confident and comfortable with your own self. It doesn’t matter who you’re with, as long as you feel comfortable with them and you get along. Being shy or fidgety will only make things awkward, and you don’t want that. Be confident and you’ll be much more likely to have a successful first date!